Missing being with your loved ones on the 4th of July?

July 4, 2020

Trevor and I were sitting on the porch last night, looking out at the huge pine tree forest surrounding our home, and the topic turned to the Great Depression that our parents and grandparents experienced. We began comparing what they went through from 1929 to 1939 with what we have been going through during this lockdown.

Trevor said, “This pandemic has been going on long enough that we have a whole country that is going through a sort of emotional depression. It’s a different kind of “great depression” than our parents and grandparents went through, but it’s deeper in some ways, because even though they were going through worse economic difficulties, they had something to get them through that we don’t have.”

“Really, what did they have that we don’t have?” I pondered

“They had the strength of gathering together with their extended family, and their friends. That’s how they got through the Great Depression. The pandemic has taken all of that away. Maybe what we are going through is harder because we have to do it on our own.” he further explained.

“My God, your right! Unless people have children, or a partner, they are going through this utterly alone. It’s hardest on people who are single. And even if people have a small nuclear family they are still cut off from the larger community. FaceTime and Skype help but it’s certainly not the same, and clearly it’s not as good,” I replied.

“I don’t know who said it, but I know some famous leader said that ‘family is the backbone of America’. This lockdown is weighing heavily on that backbone,” he continued

There was a pause and the crickets chirp and a gentle breeze rang the chimes that hang down from the porch ceiling.

“Right now, our country has so many problems, there is so much corruption and confusion, that at the moment it’s kind of hard to love our country. But when I let go of all the confusion, and I just think about celebrating the 4th of July over the years, I remember what this country stands for. The fourth of July is about celebrating freedom and independence. And when I think about that I remember that I actually love this country”, I said with a whisper of nostalgia.

“Unconditional love is something we strive for in our lives. Having children certainly taught us the importance of loving no matter what the children did. Maybe it’s time to love our country unconditionally just like we love our children,” Trevor commented enthusiastically.

“How do we do that? How do we bridge the divide that is tearing our precious country apart?” I ask.

“We need to remember what unites us. We need to remember that as Americans we all love freedom and independence. And as much as we want safety, we also don’t want to sacrifice our freedom and independence for safety. It’s about getting the balance right,” he wisely replied.

“It’s about being safe and being free. That’s something most everyone can get behind,” I reply. “I am so tired of the division we have been seeing around us, it’s nice to talk about what unites us,” I realize.

Then we both agreed that we wanted to send out a message to our Hart Wisdom Community about how important it is to find some way to continue to celebrate the 4th of July. Someway to continue to share our love of freedom with each other and our children and our grandchildren.

Our celebration is writing this blog post to you. Can you comment below and tell us how you are keeping the celebration of the 4th of July happening in your house. Perhaps your comment will be the start of your private festivities.

Have a wonderful 4th of July!

1 Comment

  1. Brenda

    Love what you wrote! We just simply cooked out on the grill and ate and talked together as a family. Hope you had a wonderful 4th!

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